Counselling is often the best weapon we have against a whole range of emotional issues like depression, grief and anxiety. Despite doing everything right, leading a perfect life, exercising and getting all the nutrients you need in your diet. Still, nothing can entirely substitute real human interaction and the benefits you get from it.
In years gone by, mental health was a subject not to be discussed. Fortunately, counselling is valuable for more than addressing psychological health problems. Because of this people are now beginning to speak freely about their issues. When counselling is applied correctly, it is an excellent tool for helping address relationship problems, trauma, stressful life events such as the empty nest syndrome and behavioural problems. The value of counselling lies in the benefit of having someone to talk to, who unambiguously and explicitly listen to you. Allowing you to talk about your feelings. People often find comfort and support in talking to friends or family. Still, for many people, this is a barrier to openly and honestly discussing their issues. Many people feel more comfortable talking to an unbiased person. A Counsellor is such a trained professional person who is essentially a stranger that listens without any judgement. He/she is trained and experienced in cognitive behavioural therapy. Counsellors do not judge. From the Counsellors perspective, there is nothing for you to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Trained Counsellors mostly have a passion for guiding you towards an improved quality of life.
1. Provides you with a safe place to talk and to see your thoughts from a different perspective
Opening up by speaking aloud and giving words to your thoughts, feelings and emotions gives you a new perspective, on what you kept consciously and subconsciously unsaid. Expressing these thoughts, feelings and emotions to someone else, makes you consider what their view is. As a result of this, you are allowing different new ways of thinking about your problems to be generated. Leading to simple natural ways of forming the issues in words and letting them all out. Keeping a journal or a diary of your thought, emotions and feelings is also an effective way for making sense of your thoughts, feelings and emotions. With your problems written down, on a piece of paper or on a computer screen, allows you to step back, see them from a bird’s eye view and to examine all from a distance. Many times when people step back they find that their worries or anxieties aren’t really a real cause for concern and that what they thought to be a severe issue, wasn’t an issue at all. Now, If it was you stepping back, as a result of this, you might even experience significant relief.
2. Provides you a cathartic experience – feelings are heard
Similarly, by letting things out that you’ve been keeping inside can be a cathartic experience that provides psychological relief through the open expression of strong emotions: When you allow this, it purges you of pent up emotions because many people find that they are relieved of bottled up thoughts and feelings. The release often feels like a weight off the mind and allows people to begin to let go of emotions they’ve been holding on to for so long.
3. Enables you time set aside to confront feelings and to explore options
In this day and age, life is busier and more hectic than ever. From the moment we get up in the morning, or for some working shifts, from the moment we get up in the afternoon or even at night, our attention is stretched out in every way possible up until the moment we fall asleep again. There just isn’t sufficient time left in the rat race of our daily existence to stop and allocate time for process things like our feelings of guilt, remorse, grief or sadness.
Committing to counselling forces you to make time to face or confront issues. With the appointment being made, you will have made a commitment. With this arrangement in place you are less likely to put off facing your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions. And, equally so, you will be less likely to be distracted from it during the session.
4. Provides couples with the benefit of exploring options and growing as a couple
Sometimes problems become intertwined and entrenched with multiple issues. When this happens, couples find it harder to find a resolution. As time pass, it is harder to talk through the issues, and there is less motivation for making time when one already knows the outcome. Talking through such issues with a neutral third party encourages both sides to air their views while someone is there to mediate between the two and help the couple to see arguments from the other’s perspective too.
5. Counselling helps you to feel less alone with your problems and improve relationships
In real life, people do not feel safe and are unable to share their intimate feelings and issues with the people close to them. It is often those closest to them that they are less at liberty to open up to. Having a complete stranger, who you can talk to, and who will not judge you, gives you the freedom to open up and to talk about anything. To talk about things you wouldn’t usually talk about to your friends and family, reduces your feelings of loneliness and feeling isolated, because here is someone who you can really talk to. Someone you can share your most intimate thoughts and emotions with, without being judged. This is especially true if you’ve had something on your mind that you were too embarrassed to discuss with people who know you.
6. Reduce anxiety – everyday life is easier
It is easier to get on with the rest of your life when you can share and unpack the heavy load of your emotions. Counselling is a great tool that encourages you to talk about things. By talking about the issues you air what you allowed to brood and grow without rational evaluation, you unwind and unload. Sharing and unloading to makes it easier to cope. With this load off and knowing that the confidentiality wraps around you safely, you can freely talk to the Counsellor about anything. You are free to trust and rely on the Counsellor to listen to your issues, feeling, and emotions. You know you won’t be judged. This promotes sharing and shedding the load and becoming free of the issues, allowing yourself to focus on living your life again. This produces a virtuous cycle that enabling you to focus on everyday life. By focussing on your everyday life, you are empowered to make positive changes, that lifts your mood and helps you to get back on track with living your dream.
7. Reduce the burden of heavy emotions
Knowing that you can confide in the Counsellor, who listens to you, helps you not to be always carrying your emotional burden. It’s common knowledge that bottled up emotions have lasting effects on your mood and behaviour. It is found that long-seated issues seem to be the root cause of many kinds of worries. If you are suffering and you find it hard to process your emotions, and this affects your life daily, seeing a counsellor can help.
8. Improve your physical wellbeing
Often when you are in a stressed or an anxiety state, 85% of the energy available is poured into the emotional aspect of who you are. The normal energy distribution where there is balance, among the four aspects, your energy is harmoniously distributed evenly at 25% or thereabout – The spiritual, physical, mental and emotional needs being met equally. In the distressed state, only 15% of the energy is available for you’re the remaining aspects where spiritual, physical and mental needs to cope with only 15% of the energy. As the majority of your energy is absorbed by your emotional aspect while your other aspects are starved of energy, your overall wellbeing is impacted. This can results in insomnia, restless anxiety, eating disorders, forgetfulness, physical impairments, just to name a few. Some of the benefits you get as a result of counselling, can be an even distribution of energy, sounder sleep, and a better appetite. This often has a knock-on effect, making people more active, which can elevate feelings of positivity. The other side of this coin is the simple benefit of spending time close to other people which, especially for those feeling lonely, can have a hugely comforting effect.
9. Promotes a greater degree of self-awareness
Finally, examining your emotions with another person allows you to see yourself from the outside, resulting in a heightened sense of self-awareness. And once processed, this can have hugely beneficial effects in making you feel more at peace with yourself plus experience a boost in self-esteem and confidence.
In conclusion: Who benefit from Counselling?
Anyone can benefit from counselling. Sometimes it’s just a good experience to talk to someone else. Young people, middle-aged and the elderly have been known to gain value from talking therapy. Everybody benefits from counselling, and it doesn’t matter what age you are, whether you’re suffering from an eating disorder, have emotional concerns, your marriage is taking a downturn, you are having relationship issues, you are going through a hard time, or you just need someone to speak to, counselling and talking therapy work, and it can work for you too.